Betrayed Spouse - Round 2

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Kind of thinking, myself, my dad, and two uncles have had this same crap. We all have basically the same personalities. Will raise hell in one microsecond but extremely passive and reserved with our wives. Not saying we brought it to ourselves, but basically set the stage for it. Kind of preoccupied with our own projects and not putting in effort to develop that deep bond with Wives.

From what I've read and heard, it's a common thing for men to neglect their wives, and put other things at a higher priority, like their job and their hobbies. That's what I did. You and I are learning. You said your relationship with your wife was your first real relationship. The same is true of my wife. In my case, and probably in yours as well, I didn't yet have much relationship experience. I didn't understand how fragile relationships are, and how it's very important to listen to a woman when she complains. I had this idea that she and I were soulmates, and nothing but death could come between us. We might be soulmates, but I have learned that you have to really "water the plant", or it will die. Because that seemed to be a problem as well in your marriage, I fear for you pulling back from your wife, if you still want her. It's just a continuation of not watering the plant. If the "dried out plant" makes itself available for watering, I'd say you need to water it. As soon as that wall is down, pour in the love. Find whatever hole in the wall to push love through, to make the wall come down faster, but do this in moderation. Above all, though, do what you strongly believe is the right thing to do, and do whatever seems to be working. I apologize for the excessive metaphors.