In the first few weeks, I was bonkers and incredibly concerned for her. W has said before that her couple of closest friends are aware of her conditions, though her closest is terrible with advice, IMO.
I am on friendly terms with the family and she hid it from them. I did not tell them outright of her conditions, but I felt I gave them enough information that I was comfortable sharing. With the family member I was close with, I did suggest checking in on x basis.
I have been NC with the family for the last 4 weeks as well. I wouldn't be comfortable telling them more at this point.
The reality is W will listen to her one or two friends above all else anyway.... above me and above her family. I am not able to talk to those friends.
If I saw signs of danger, I would take more action, but at this point I believe I have done all I can. I appreciate what you said.
Sounds like you've already got it covered. To reiterate, Detach, GAL and focus on you. Its not easy and if you are like me, you'll fail at times, but keep trying, this is for your health as much as the possibility of the R. If the R should work out, it will not be the same and that wouldn't be a bad thing would it?
Me 51, Wife 44; Married 4; Together 10; HSD20, XWSD13, XWSS14, XWSS17 Kids Together D4, D1.52 W Moves Out: 03/16/17 W Files : 03/17/17 D Final: 10/23/17
