Great job at holding the line. I can promise you that all she had in mind was herself. She is feeling some heat from her family and she doesn't like it. She expected you to jump at the chance to rescue her from that heat. It was not a moment of second guessing herself, and I'm sure she was aggravated that you did not appear more concerned.
The good new is this: You putting a line on the checking account.....and her family's reaction to her wanting out of the M, is probably the first consequences she's really had to face. (You would think telling her kids would be one, but I have not read about a WW being torn up over their children learning of the D). Anyway, it is important not to rescue her from the consequences that come her way. She will expect you to rescue her, b/c that was a benefit that came with the MR. She has given up the MR, so she loses those benefits she had as your W. In the coming weeks and months, you will see this at play. Beware of her trying to manipulate you, b/c she will want to keep her old benefits, and I think she'll try various approaches to get it.
Although you may not feel strong, emotionally.......you are showing her how a strong man deals with a WW. Good job!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
