My wife says she wants to fix things. Its only been a week but so far, she talks the talk but does not walk the walk. We agreed to kiss goodnight.... I have to do that. I started to give her an occasional cuddle.... she no longer recoils but it is still me giving her a cuddle.etc etc
My biggest problem is that after so long of having zero intimacy and believing that I "fancy the pants off of her", I made a decision to separate. In our discussion I backed down and promised to give her a chance (I am an honourable man so I will and throw body and soul into it).....but I don't know that I want her to succeed..... how do you know if you have fallen out of love with someone ?.... is it that I have been so scared I can't trust her ? or have I mentally moved on ?
That's what I mean re : masturbation.... in all of the bad times I just "manned up" and sorted my self out. Not ideal but it is a coping strategy.....now I'm lost. Probably I should "man up" again.... I promised to give her a chance so I must............but what if this is a waste of time and I don't want what she may be able to give me ?
