Originally Posted By: coconut
Originally Posted By: BluWave
Does she think you will never forgive her and love her as you used to?
My guess would be yes, and I am guessing that because of my anger phase. I showed her a lot of hate, not sure she could believe that I could go from such hate back to love… But who knows, cause I did go from so Loving to hate which I guess she would of never imagined.


Because I do agree that ending it without at least an understanding of why, or without at least an attempt at opening communication I texted her.

M - I would like to ask you something, but I hesitate to do so because I'm not sure I "should" and therefore have held off asking. I am asking now because it plays such a big part in decisions that I make, and I question if my thoughts are even close to reality.

M - Why haven't you reached out to discuss "us"?

WW - Because you've made it very clear to me over the past year that you despise me & when you moved I heard about how happy you seemed & I wasn't going to try to take that from you by bringing things up that opened up old wounds. I mean your sister asked me not to even like or comment on her FB posts because you didn't want to see my name. That's hate.

M - I understand that my actions made you feel hated, I was angry... anger was the only outlet I could find for my pain. I'm not proud that I was so codependent that I wasn't able to be strong on my own, I'm sorry I lashed out at you, it wasn't fair to you.


M - 9 1/2 years
5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA
10/31/16 - We sold house
01/10/18 - D Finalized