Hey Coconut. Deciding to file is a big choice and a tough emotional one, all kinds of entirely understandable emotions. Reading your exchange with 25, I guess what jumps out is that a) your wife is showing signs of reaching out and wanting to talk b)she has never said that a divorce is her solution (although I appreciate she hasn't offered a different one yet!) and c) you feel ready to file because you believe she hasn't met your two conditions, OM and transparency?
I suppose I'm thinking that c) also implies that either you feel sure she is never going to meet those conditions or you have decided that you no longer want to be married to her regardless of what happens. How do you know that this is true? And how would you feel if you get divorced and find out in a year's time that this was the point where she was ready to do what you needed her to do?
And what is the 'problem' to which filing is the solution? What does it give you or remove from what you have now?
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
