Still standing almost 11 years later

[missmyfriend]

Cadet, I guess it depends on how you define standing and how you define waiting. I do believe I am doing both. Personally, when I am referring to waiting, I am waiting on God. Some people do not understand about waiting on Him but this is scripture I was just reading earlier today, Psalm 38:15, "Lord, I wait for You; You will answer, Lord my God." Regarding your question about how I am living my life, I simply am. Its pretty easy.

BluWave, I am glad to hear that you and your S are together again. I hope that piecing goes much better. I hope you are having more ups than downs. Anyway, for me, its been so long that I really am not too disheartened anymore. Yes, there are times that makes it difficult for me considering she and I were together a long time and have so many experiences in the area where we live. Overall, i take it one day at a time. I have no timeline in mind basically focusing on what God wants from me.

Gordie, its a tough road but I believe it can make a stronger person out of you. Thank you for your comment.

Thanks RR17!

RDS, I completely understand what you are saying. Maybe I am still a cockeyed optimist but I think that if there is someone special for you, nothing will stop that from happening. With you being married for 33 years, you may want to take a couple of years to learn to be your own person. Its hard after being together for such a long time to think of being just you. However thats exactly what you need before you can ever consider going into another relationship. Since my W left, I have seen friends (including several on this board) get divorced, remarried and divorced again only to get married yet again. I honestly think that they never learned to be by themselves and comfortable with that.

As a comment to everyone, yes, today was a little more challenging for me. My anniversary is coming up in a week (wouldve been married 27 years) and my daughter has her 25 birthday four days later. Around holidays, birthdays and other special events that were common to the two of us, it is more difficult. Outside of that, I have many things I enjoy. I got rid of our old house and downsized to something for me, I have a motorcycle (which I need to ride more) and I spend time with family. I do appreciate everyones comments whether they are supportive or concerned or both

Thank you all!