if you are going to cancel the phone, do it solely for financial reasons.
And do not tell him, or tell him it has anything to do with OW's. Just makes you look punitive
- and he will say you're "paranoid/always suspicious/never trusting/forced me" and you'll get sucked back into gas lighting blame shifting land.
^^^That's not your landing spot anymore.
And besides, you don't need to fuel that ^^^ narrative anymore.
So, for a few minutes a day/evening, can you do yourself a favor?
Imagine a life without your h, with you being happy....
add some details. Are you working full time? What's work look like? Do you travel with the boys much? Where to? Lots of soccer, I'm betting. Do you Ever take a girl's trip?
What about a hobby you'd like to get back into? Instrument to play or class to take? There will be times you don't have the boys, so you will have some T3 time.
T3, there are things to look forward to if you'd let some light in, just for a bit. Don't get all "doomed catastrophe" on us.
These ^^^ are just some ideas, but you will have some of your own if you let yourself go there for 5 minutes. Please let yourself see some positives in your future because they exist.
And imo, your times with the boys will be less stressful, actually. Not always of course, but more than it would be if your h was around in your face.
And yes T3, you WILL meet another man. Yes I am sure. And yes, A good man.
You know I am one of 9 kids. 3 of my brothers married a 2nd time, and each was over 35 at the time.
Each said they knew that if they remarried, they'd probably marry a single mom and they were fine with that. One brother married a woman with 3 daughters, and HE had 3 daughters entering the m, and then they had --- yes, a daughter. So he's got 7 girls. They're happy, and it's been 12 years. So Yes it happens.
having 3 sons Is not leprosy.
This is a rough time, I know. I wish you could see that what my son told ME is true for you as well. Here is what he said and what I have typed on my phone to remind me.
"you are bound for so much more happiness now, I can't wait for you to see that."
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
