I finished reading your thread and it seems you know she has SAD (plus her other issues).
I'm glad Blu pointed out the problem with research people do and pass on as "the" truth, b/c even those who are trained in psychiatry, have not met your w. Glad you know this.
(Not discounting Kguys' experience with this, in whatever form).
A few things to consider...
* you already have heard the "in sickness and in health" but there is the aspect of this that directly/uniquely affects YOU. By analogy, If your w had a disease that was contagious and endangered you, you might have to leave.
It's a hard call.
* if I understand your timeline correctly, the more recent developments are that she wants to file and it's of a short duration.
What is your actual specific dilemma now? To fight a Div or to DB or what?
* there was a WAW here some years back. She was acting out and eventually got diagnosed with Bi-polar.
She really felt constrained by the treatment and then mortified and shamed by the results of her behavior. She had children and a h who loved her a lot. And then she took her own life.
I'll never forget that. The h posted here. If his posts are still around (Before the great DB "purge" of old threads) I think his name was 9lives. Worth reading.
* Even if she were making these choices based on how she "really does feel", versus an episode, this is not a fast process. Adjust the time line for whatever you plan DB wise
and or, maybe give yourself an internal deadline for seeing progress so you can know that limbo is not permanent. That really helped me stay the course.
Hang in there, you are not alone.
I offer you support.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
