Thank you for taking the time. The goal is definitely the latter and looks like I messed up.
So e.g. that her wanting to leave has nothing to do with the OM but has to do with everything that happened over the years. I said I agree with her and everything prior to the 'A' was my fault. I also said yet it was her decision to have an EA while being m and I will not be blamed for that. Looks like I messed up here as well. She mentioned several incidents where she felt I devalued her and I just said I understand and kept quiet. She did most of the talking.
