What should I be doing now? (Filing for D soon)

[25yearsmlc]

Coconut,

I definitely see where you are coming from with children. W and I wanted 3, but after S13 was born she didn't want anymore. Which I respected. And her body kept having bad reaction to every form of birth control,

NOT making light of your pain, but if she had bad reactions to birth control, and you agreed to not having more kids, what other option was there?

so I did the noble thing and got a vasectomy. Which I seriously have been regretting ever since finding out about my W A.


^^I understand

Gave up the thing, I wanted most. And all she can is shrug it off and say that she appreciates. So finding a woman who doesn't want to give birth to any children is going to be an issue if this MR ends.

I'm a bit confused. Did you reverse the vasectomy?

If so, it sounds like having a child is an issue to raise early in a dating R. If it's a deal breaker and you don't want to adopt, then that's that.

Just know that fertility is never guaranteed - so you might marry a wonderful woman who is loyal and fun and loving. If she/you cannot have children together, would you walk?

Thinking onbthis just adds to the list of selfish things my W has done. Also at this point would I even want to have children so far apart in age?

don't shut too many doors. I'm one of 9 kids, and my older/youngest sister's are 10 years apart. They are close, & I had dinner last night with my 3 sisters and we get along very well.

For MY kids - My oldest, a boy, is nearly 12 years older than my youngest, a girl.

& All 3 of my kids are very close.

(It's probably my greatest achievement in life)


Oh, and my oldest brother remarried at age 56, and now has a 5 year old. (I know!!)

He seems very content with his "do over", and btw, his wife was 51 at time of delivery. Yep, I'm certain.

So My point is, Don't limit your future.