So another day done. And another day I succeeded. No arguments. There was an issue that usually gets my H overwhelmed. And sure enough he did. But normally I would get all is his space and tell him to calm down and tell him to grow up. But today I stepped up to the plate and hit a home run. I kept calm and gave him all the tools HE needed to succeed. And therefore I succeeded. I take it day by day. I have noticed little things this week with H. He is more calmer with me. Doesn't immediately jump to conclusions that everything is my fault. At BD he would leave work to do an out of area service call. And he would just say to me I am going to said town. He wouldn't tell me who he was doing the call for or anything. He would just leave it open ended for me to be insecure about and unsure. This week he will leave on a call and tell me where he is going and who he is with. He is leaving his phone unattended. Ever since I set some boundaries on the weekend and backed off him things have got better. It's hard not to look on the bright side and see how things have turned around. He could still never come back. But I'm going to continue on this path and see where it takes me. He doesn't text me in the evenings or weekends yet. But he is more amicable during the day while we are together. The insecure part of me thinks he's happier because I am not bothering him so he can move on happily. But the positive part of me thinks that this is a step forward. Either way I will be ok with out him. But it is nice to see this change. Here's to another day that I can succeed.
