During all this counseling, she finally stopped and things got better. Several apologies etc. Several of the problems that were discovered were never really worked out. Communication on her part. Her personal baggage etc. I had my share too.
What personal baggage are you referring to? What about communication, what are the problems there? These sound like some very serious issues that you just kind of breezed past. Usually when someone engages in an EA they are doing it because something is missing in the M. What do you think she was getting out of an EA that she was missing in the M? How can you do a 180 on that?
The issues are ones that I discovered reading countless books etc. She has never been a good communicator. I remember early on in our relationship asking what are you thinking only to hear"nothing". I was the "Performer" and she the "Audience" for those familiar with irrelationship. I had the ideas and the opinions and she always went along. She was repressing her feelings and after awhile that doesn't work. As for the EA he was in the next state and they had a couple of plans to meet. All that fell through. As for me? Well, I needed to become a better listener and had some residue from a fallen real estate market that hit me hard. At the time things never seemed that bad but in retro, I know they were. I only breezed by because I am living in the now and it is crisis mode.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
