I would not keep digging into the "w is in weaning withdrawal" as the reason for your marital problems.
While it MAY be a small factor I think you are letting yourself off the hook almost completely and here's the thing
if you were a perfect h, you would now be powerless to improve things or change the dynamic,
so in very real way, it's GOOD NEWS that you have your own work to do. And you do.
You have a way of not seeing your role in a major issue which is that almost all of the problems you list in your first post are ongoing & never addressed in ways that require genuine change in your behavior.
It's as if you believe changing on your end means "Losing". Marriage is not a war.
Growing up, How were conflicts in your family worked out?
What did forgiveness look like, or
was there much forgiveness shown in your childhood?
What do you want to work on in yourself?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
