Seriously, how does 1 person end up in 2 SSM type relationships. Is it ironic or is it because *I* am the common denominator? I have examined myself as carefully as I could and I don't think there is any way I am a sex killer.
I have never turned him down. I am not a nag. I don't try to undermine him or make him feel like less of a man. I am pretty unfailingly kind. I do more than half the cooking, cleaning, etc. I am considerate of his wants and needs. And we still enjoy each other's company.
He says it is his problem. He takes ownership completely and says there is nothing I can do. He will talk about it but even discussing the issue ad nauseum doesn't change anything. I think I miss the intimacy as much as I miss sex. But intimacy carries with it a natural progression towards sex and triggers his performance anxiety. Sigh!
