Wow, that is some thorough analysis, thank you. (I am practicing my validation techniques if you didn't notice:-). Hey, have you ever seen that movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall? If not, please do so. Immediately. In the first scene he is laying around in his sweats and eating cereal out of a giant tupperware bowl. Your post just reminded me of that. It will be sure to give you a good laugh.

So here is the thing, it wasn't for that long that you each were able to make some changes in yourselves and also to see the changes in the other. You list some things that a woman with a soon to be adult son--especially one that is wanting to go out and have some fun--might very well pull away from you. You describe yourself as a NG, impatient, not motivated, drinking and watching tv most evenings, and then when she messed up you showed her a lot of hate (understandable, I'm just saying). So how much 180 and GAL did you do while you were around her? And for what length of time?

Then you moved out of state. So now it is pretty much over and you are far away and both thinking you may never know if it could have worked. That is just sad to me.

I wish there was a way we could meet up in person and discuss this. ... Although I guess it would be dangerous to have a bunch of LBS meeting up. That might no facilitate marriage. LOL.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela