[/quote]Hopefully I answered that above, but the bottom line is whether it matters to you. If you found out there isn't an A, what would your approach be? If there is an A, would it be different?
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All good points. The answer is I don't know at this point. As long as I am not sure, I guess there is a chance.
I remember one session in MC that the counselor asked, If you catch her again will you stay? I said no.
Up until that question I was dead set on fix'n it.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.