Your attitude is spot on but she will mostly discount your words. Show her. Follow the rules of the 180. Your action will speak volumes. She is living in the Fog.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.