Not sure what I have

[KGuy]

I would say this is both an EA and also related to her bipolar disorder. Only she can work on dealing with the latter, and using the DB rules can help deal with the EA. Bipolars tend to infactuate, so the infactuation with the hobby/OM may be just a phase until she gets bored with it. Unfortunately, the same applies to your relationship it appears. All you can do is detach and GAL. I like the lighthouse link, be that.

Also, read Sandi2's post on LBH and the conditions for taking someone back in an A. I really got a lot from that even though my situation does not involve an A.

I would also suggest the you read a lot on the bipolar disorder so you know what you are up against there. There are quite a few good books out there on it i think. That disorder is very complicated and if she has been hospitalized quite life threatening for her.

From this point on, this will be a test of how much you love her. For this site, the theme is like the song "if you love someone set them free..."