My W told me this evening that she's not paying child support. Yikes! I also learned that she's going to fight me for custody!
Teppo, first who is it that keeps initiating these convos? If it's you then stop it. Wait until you get the D papers, and then review them. If you don't like the terms then discuss it with an L.
Second, like Acc said it is not up to her whether she pays child support or not, it's up to the court. She can PROPOSE not paying child support in her D papers, but all you have to do is reject her proposal. Then it has to be resolved through negotiation, remediation or the court. Has she even drawn up the papers yet? If not you might just tell her that you're not going to accept those terms and that if that's what she's proposing then she needs to prepare for court. Once she realizes you're not just going to roll over on this stuff then I suspect she'll back down from her demands because the alternative is a long, drawn out fight and a big delay in the actual D date.
DBing does not apply to D negotiations. In the D you need to do whatever it takes to protect your interests. D negotiations are NOT the place for listening and validating.
