A familiar story with questions..

[RR17]

Tobias, you are correct. I believe the key is to know yourself. If sex will make you believe things have turned, you may be fooling yourself. I was a pathetic hurt LBH the first time around. I compared my reaction to PTSD. I had triggers and panic attacks. Sex was a lifesaver, or so I thought. What do they call it Frantic Mating? I thought it was a sign that she still had feelings and it would all work out. What I now know, it that it made her believe that she could keep me and continue the EA.

Well, not this time. I am in control of me. Because of this group, I have learned that my situation is not so unique. My gosh, you would believe that it is a major epidemic, WAWs. People like Sandi and Cadet are a godsend because trying to figure it out on your own is near impossible.

I realize I may be over intellectualizing, but right now that's where I am.
In order to not accept less, you have to make absolutes while the head is clear. Decide what is allowed and what is not. These are your rules and stick to them.