What should I be doing now? (Filing for D soon)

[Coconut]

My ex is a person who never meets deadlines, never plans her time, and really doesn't care if she meets anyone elses expectations.

At work, she was constantly late on deadlines for everything. If there was a training that was due on a certain day, she wouldn't even look at it until the boss said something about it. When yearly work audits where due, she wouldn't start them until after they were due. I mean in every aspect of her life, she doesn't care at all about doing things that should be done.

When we would have plans to meet other people, she would be sitting on the couch playing on FB or her games, about 30 minutes before we had to leave I would start "reminding" her that we need to leave in 30 minutes, I would get ready, and 5 minutes before we need to leave she would still be playing her games. It takes her 30-45 minutes to get ready. At first I would load the car with anything we had to take, call the people we were meeting and let them know we were going to be late, then I would pace around angrily until she was ready.

I did my best to try and change that attitude throughout my M, but at some point I gave up on it, and the last few years of our M I just started driving separately so I could get there on time and she would get there whenever she got there.

So I believe (and am pretty sure) her lack of response or acknowledgment wasn't as much she is hurting, or needs time, as it is just a lack of concern about what I need or am asking for, and she's just doing her own thing.

Don't forget, it was only about a month ago that she texted me and asked if we could "talk" about son, I agreed and she said she would call me in a "little bit". She tried to call me about 1 1/2 weeks later, I didn't answer, I text her and told her I would just talk to son about it.