Good question. As discussed elsewhere the at stages for the LBH and right now I guess it depends.
If I gave a definitive answer, who knows if I would feel the same tomorrow.

Last night she seemed quite sad. I think the weight of dropping the D has started to set in. We sat in bed and I tried to respond to the TV so that I didn't seem to be sulking. She was quiet.

I usually make and bring coffee. Today I made it but she can get used to getting it herself.

The plot thickens, as they say. Right now I am committed to 180 and detachment.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.