the comments about being "disposable" resonates b/c as Leah said, we ALL have felt or do feel that way at times.
I mean, none of us "wanted" to be here, even if we were the ones to file. Please understand that.
My h has not spoken or even texted our 3 kids in 7 months, including on their birthdays. Has not seen them in almost a year.
What did THEY do to deserve this? It's a 35 year marriage, T3...that is about your age, right?
So I get it. But we all just have to let go of how they feel about our r or us. They are not our mirrors.
My T said "do not look at yourself thru your h's eyes. It's like looking at yourself thru the eyes of a disordered, dishonest man. It's just NOT accurate."
T3, my h sleeps in a bed with OW now. In her home, with her child.
Writing that^^ $ucks. A lot. But it hurts less, in part b/c I just STOP going there.
And partly b/c I just have no control over that and it does help me to know "hey 25, when you cannot "do" anything about this, you have to let it go."
I'm getting better at that. A lot better.
You will too.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
