Well, the bad news is that most situations involve an ea, pa or ia so reasonable to assume one of these as your wife has done that before and that is what your suspect.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving