Here again part 12

[leahsue]

T,
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US ON HERE HAS BEEN "DISPOSED OF".

Some of us with no warning. Just like a light bulb.

And it hurts like He11!

I cannot add to the advice you've been given, except to say- just for this next few days, when emotion looms strong in your head and heart, shut it down!

You can deal with all that later, but for now, if you are as committed to those boys as you seem to be, you MUST legally protect them. And pining for your H is not getting that done.

Has it occured to you that H may have gotten wind of the fact that YOU have sought legal advice, and that he may be waiting and prepping to be served? When I read his last text whining about no money, and we need to talk, it struck me that he is laying some groundwork for a legal fight.

Sometimes he strikes me as a spoiled, little man/boy, but recently, either he is getting some advice about paving the way to a legal battle with you, or he is just acting dumb, but may be Wile. E. Coyote under that dumb facade.

You owe it to your boys to act on this, and quit making excuses for waiting. As long as both people are still alive, there's always hope for a new marriage to the same person. But now is NOT the time to be thinking about that.

If your boys were in a burning building, would you wait around to see if the fire put itself out on its own? Of course not!!!! So get busy rescuing them and yourself.

PLEASE, PLEASE listen to the people on here and DO NOT KEEP PUTTING THIS OFF thinking it will get easier. It won't, until you take action, and it may very well get worse if you keep procrastinating with "enjoying time with the boys, etc".

I know this came off as a 2x4, but I just am so afraid for you right now, and I don't think you are stopping the mourning for the H he used to be, to take this as seriously as you should.

You know we would not be spending this much time and energy on here trying to beat some sense into you, if we didn't all love and want to protect you.