We got back the decision from the support conference, and the amount I have to pay is acceptable to me (in fact, I'm satisfied it's fair, and all things considered, I'm pretty happy with it.).
She was reaching for the bass ring, and fell short by over $ 1000. She's not going to be happy about the amount of child support and alimony she's going to receive. I think her lawyer's been blowing sunshine up her ass, making her think she's going to get a huge check, but I'm pretty sure of the legal ground I stand on.
I know she's going to be pissed, and will probably appeal it and we'll have to go to court, where things will get pretty ugly and expensive.
We had discussions to try to come to an agreement before the decision was handed down, and got nowhere. I tried to apply Sandi2's rules, with some success.
I'm pretty sure she'll come crying to me about how she can't make ends meet, and I should work more so her alimony check will be bigger. I've told her many times the company has cut back on my hours, and have proof to back it up. I almost never work overtime so I believe there's no way a judge will order me to do so to make up the lost hours.
So, as a husband trying to reconcile with my wife, what do I do? Do a 180 and, where I used to be amenable, say "tough [censored]?" Do I validate her concerns, listen sympathetically, and compromise, even though she wouldn't accept any of the compromises I offered earlier, in order to avoid a costly and long legal fight? Something else?
Thanks for reading, and any help you have to offer.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
