How much longer do you feel you can go on? Has anything changed with the physical separation?
It's hard to say. About a month ago I was DONE, but that decision was rooted in anger. Today I find myself still holding out hope. Although I have no delusions that piecing will be easy.
The physical separation has definitely helped because I'm not as anxious as I was when we were both living in the house. I would see her every day and on the nights she worked I would stay up to wait for her to come home (most nights it was several hours after she was done working). Now I only see her in passing. It still hurts but it doesn't last as long.
But the problem for me is that even hinting at the fact that the separation is an improvement over the previous living arrangements makes me feel like I'm going along with her. And I have to resist the urge to remind her that I don't want a divorce.
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
