WAW, is there hope?

[KGuy]

Okay,

Now disecting this as to how she felt? It would most likely be something like this:


-He is moving my delicate clothes from the closet and cramming them into a smaller closet damaging them
-He told me he would give me the baby back after the bath and he didn't
-He wouldn't let me have the baby
-he physically prevented me from feeding the baby
-he took my son's cell phine
-he tried to call the Sheriff on me


I of course have counters to all of these and i can see this converstaion going back and forth similar to how a non-communicative dialog goes in the DR book. Both side stick by their views and don't listen to the other. I get that and wished i could have stopped and diffused the situation somehow. Didn't have the book then though.

I realize it appears i am trying to dump this on her, i'm not. I know i have problems, not only a depression issue, but also some incredible previous marital issues that are eerily similar to what went on here. I mean her MIL told her at one point she was pusghing my buttons, to which she responded i was pushing my own buttons. In a way she was right. If i read into my actions, i might even say that i expected this to happen, so therfore am partially responsible for the events happening in a similar manner due to me trying to prevent them from happening if that makes sense .

It may sound like I'm reaching I guess, but I just keep looking for reasons why this got to this point and to explain the extreme anger she has towards me in order to do whatever i need to do. I nkow part of that anger was a long time brewing. Her previous marriage ended at the same time her youngest from that marriage was as old as our youngest. Putting that 2 together with the other 2 from when the W had issues when our 3 y/o and now 18 m/o were roughly the same age made me research 4, the weaning thing.