Betrayed Spouse - Round 2

[dale165]

Hey Treasur, so weird, what you just described is exactly what we are going to talk about next session in IC!

A short version is that I grew up extremely poor in a rural part of Louisiana. Parents had me when they were 17 and 18 and their parents were broke too. Our version of going out to eat was sonic or burger king every other Friday when my step dad got paid. Never really went on any sort of vacation or traveled. My life really just centered around baseball. That's all I did year round. Not many other hobbies except typical boy stuff such as bicycles, playing in the woods, etc. Parents didn't show any affection or said I love you much. Good childhood though, I have no animosity towards anyone. Actually taught me to be non-judgmental which I appreciate.

In contrast, my W grew up in New Orleans, which is huge on culture. Her dad was big on trying new things. She would tell me stories of them eating at places while sitting on pillows, eating octopus, and traveling.

So with all that being said, I never really changed much from childhood. Of course I do more things because I have my own money but I'm still extremely simple. I think that's where some of my depression came from. My lack of trying new things. I felt like I didn't have much to offer my W so I turtled up. Me and W both make 6 figures a piece so its no like we don't have the money. I'm really not even frugal but I also don't care about material things such as cars and fancy things. I like things that make me feel good and that I can use for a long time.

And thank you for pointing out a positive. My family was big on loyalty and doing the right thing. I was blessed with a terrible guilty conscience. So I'm trying to do what I believe is right by staying faithful and becoming a better man.

As far as passion. I really don't know but Im trying really hard to figure that out. Im passionate about golf, working out, and jiu jitsu. But that's just surface things so I'm trying to become more open to things.

Thanks again for pointing that out! Ive been using this as more of a therapy tool so sorry if I'm veering off relationship talk!