I'm not like the man your H is, I would never cheat my future wife or any gf I will be with (or been with). So I can't say what on earth goes in his mind. But I'm still a man and I can say that a woman who would just move on with their life and act on it would be much more attractive than a woman who just clinged and waited. He knows you are there for him if nothing else works. Like you said for me, people want what they can't have. Trust that. Protect yourself. Go with the D. You'll get the money. If H never snaps out of this, you will find a better man - if he does, then you can make him work hard for months before accepting him back - I'm sorry, WHY do you even want him back in the first place???
I guarantee it for you. From your texts, I can see that you are a loving, a caring and a wonderful woman any man would like to have in their life as their wife. Your H is a (sorry) plain moron for not seeing this. You deserve better. You will get better if you desire so!
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
