Thinking about consulting a divorce lawyer, just to see what my options are and what I can and can't do (move out,etc) in my state without prejudicing my rights later. Divorce law is something I know practically nothing about, and a couple posters, sandi2 included, I think, had suggested on a couple of occasions that this might be a wise move.
Question is, do I tell my W? I am inclined to do so, particularly since I once told/promised her I would never start down that road in secret. Not like I think I owe her the truth or anything, BUT... quite possible it would not occur to her that I am that serious if I keep quiet about it...
Thank you cadence, that is incredibly insightful. Appreciate you taking the time.
As do I appreciate everyones time on here. I wish I had more myself to offer, but I feel like I have bungled things so often that my useful insights are almost nonexistent, though if can find a spot here and there to offer a supportive word, i try to do so.
I didn't feel my response to MLC was "lashing out" and I don't know that I have ever "lashed out" at Sandi, though certainly she and I have both voiced frustration with each other from time to time. I certainly have no "problem" with women, and particularly value the insights into womens' (and WWs') psyches on this board. If I indicate otherwise, I apologize. I am grateful for both Sandis and MLCs time and efforts... but I just honestly felt like her posts recently in tone and tenor-- content aside-- were unnecessarily demoralizing. Compare hers and Sandia most recent posts. Very common content wise but completely diilfferent tones. Sandi delivers ss mean a 2 by 4 as anyone at times, but still manages to be encouraging somehow, and isn't that supposed to be an important component of DB? Keeping a positive outlook and disposition? Perhaps I could have said it better/differently, because I do value everyone's efforts here on behalf of so many of us who are going through absolute hell, and I thought I at least kinda sorta indicated that. I certainly don't want anyone to stop posting (even MLC, if she is still reading)... just request/hope/wish for a more supportive/encouraging tone. I koq that can be hard sometimes under the circs, but, hey, I can dream, right.
Pleas accept my apologies for any offence I gave or breach of board etiquette.
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