We need to sit down and go over finances one night soon. I can't afford everything I am paying right now.
Do I bother responding to this??
Wow. OK from what I've read you're saying that if you file your L is convinced you will be getting more money from H than you are right now. And H has just put you on notice that he wants to sit down and tell you he is intending to pay you LESS. Let me just join the chorus here, you really only have one course of action and it is to FILE! Filing for D is not going to make your sitch worse. It may very well make it better. It could be the wakeup call for H that you are DONE putting up with his crap and it could slap him back to reality. No more cake-eating, no more playing part-time dad when it suits him, no more campouts at your place when the mood strikes.
Look T, the reality is he is only paying you now because he thinks he has to. If he could weasel out of it he would. HE IS NOT DOING IT OUT OF THE GOODNESS OF HIS HEART. He suspects that if he doesn't pay then you'll rain hellfire on him and things will be 10x worse. He's been paying, but he's already trying to finagle some of that money back and for what? Motorcycle parts, more steroids, travel, gifts for OW, etc. Nothing that benefits you or the kids I can promise you that. You need to get this process rolling before he decides to cut you off completely.
