Happy Birthday to your daughter! Time has certainly been moving at light speed. I can still remember her being 14! She'll soon be registering for driver's ed.
I think you are doing the right thing by allowing your daughters to decide whether or not they want to communicate w/their mother. She evidently is so dense to think that they aren't checking FB to see what her status is w/the boyfriend. Just another possible lie to add to the pile about living alone. She'll never learn.
I'm so glad you are the stable parent who is there for his girls.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
