Last night, D was in a bad mood--she was angry, tired, and cranky while we were food shopping. After she calmed down, she opened up a little bit and talked to me about what she was thinking and feeling, which hasn't happened very much over the last six months.
She's angry, but not with me, or with STBXW, she's just upset that we aren't a family anymore. I ask if she's happy with the time she spends with mommy, and the time she spends with daddy, and if she is ok with how she is living (tough questions for a six year old) and she says she is, but wishes we all lived together. Then this comes out:
"Daddy, mommy says you have a girlfriend, but I know that's not true."
"Sweetie, it is true, daddy does have a girlfriend. We've talked about her before when you asked questions."
"Oh. That's ok daddy. Mommy says she doesn't have a boyfriend, he's just a friend, but she's a liar" (in my mind: what the heck, where is she getting this stuff from???)
"Sweetie, who is telling you things like that?"
"Mamaw said that" (at which point, D covers her mouth with her hands and stops talking).
She picks back up with (and I swear I'm not making this up) "Daddy, you just be ok for a while and maybe someday mommy will love you again. But you have to kiss her. All you have to do is kiss her, it's magic." She goes on in this vein for a while, and I tell her, as gently as possible, that isn't something that can happen. She starts falling asleep at that point.
I don't have conversations like this in front of D--she's almost never around other people with me, anyway, other than the neighbors (and that rarely, since she's playing with their kids when I see them). What the hell are her mother and grandmother talking about in front of her?
The things that come out of D's mouth these days worry me sometimes. Do I need to be worried about this?
