I'm upset that D had to witness the drama, but almost as upset that she was there AT ALL. If W couldn't find anyone to watch her, I could have taken her somewhere on an overnight or something so she didn't have to see her house get taken apart.
Post divorce parenting plan has D living with me and seeing her mother 1st, 2nd, and 4th weekend of the month (plus holidays, etc). I had my L add to the parenting plan that her mother could see her every day if she wants to (has to let me know day before, and have her home by bedtime).
I don't know why D said that. It made me worry about her.
As for what I told her, I told her of course she was going to see daddy, no one was going to jail, and mommy wasn't stealing anything, that mommy was just taking things that belonged to her, to her house.
It got bad for a while, she was clinging to me an crying if I put her down for even a minute.
MY XW wanted to change things the night before our court date knowing I wouldn't be in court. I told her I wasn't going to change anything. She was REALLY upset about it and my L wrote me in an email that my XW seemed so sad about everything.
Now my XW seems okay about everything now.
M 55 W 52 MR 32 T 34+ D29 BD May 8, 2016 - She moved out ILYBNILWY May 15 (Through email) No EA/PA August 23 - DB used against me in every way Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day
Yes. Signed and notarized. The court date has already been vacated pending a motion hearing though so either way it's going longer. I'm crushed. I didn't want to end up at this point but STBXW isn't anyone I want to be around anymore. I just want it to be over and go on with my life.
It seems that your parenting plan was very fair and flexible. The fact that you added that she could see your D every day if she wanted seems awfully generous.
I know you probably don't care, but for what it's worth, she is stalling. Take that how you will, but there is no reason she would think the plan is unacceptable if she basically has open reign to see D whenever she wants.
M-42 W-40 S-12 D-10 Together-13 years Married-10 years Separated-6/2016 ILYBINILWY-7/2016 EA-4/2016 (best guess) PA-7/2016 (best guess)
According to my L, the motion says that the parenting plan "effectively gives up rights to her child" and that she signed it without benefit of counsel.
My L seems confident, but she probably would regardless of what our actual chances are, so who knows.
I think it is absolutely appalling that your WW appears to be saying that your not really her father. As a step-father, I recognize what it means to accept a child as your own, to love them, care for them and give them a father's love, discipline and lessons that they would otherwise not receive. You adopted her, she is your child as much as your WW's, and there is nothing your WW can do to change that.
With that said, this is not a battle that you should go into with the mindset of "I must win this". Keep your daughters best interest as the reason for each decision you make.
In no way and I'm saying your not her best interest, and understanding the WW mindset, the best thing for her may be more time with you, but I don't know the real life nuances of her R with your Daughter.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Last night, D was in a bad mood--she was angry, tired, and cranky while we were food shopping. After she calmed down, she opened up a little bit and talked to me about what she was thinking and feeling, which hasn't happened very much over the last six months.
She's angry, but not with me, or with STBXW, she's just upset that we aren't a family anymore. I ask if she's happy with the time she spends with mommy, and the time she spends with daddy, and if she is ok with how she is living (tough questions for a six year old) and she says she is, but wishes we all lived together. Then this comes out:
"Daddy, mommy says you have a girlfriend, but I know that's not true."
"Sweetie, it is true, daddy does have a girlfriend. We've talked about her before when you asked questions."
"Oh. That's ok daddy. Mommy says she doesn't have a boyfriend, he's just a friend, but she's a liar" (in my mind: what the heck, where is she getting this stuff from???)
"Sweetie, who is telling you things like that?"
"Mamaw said that" (at which point, D covers her mouth with her hands and stops talking).
She picks back up with (and I swear I'm not making this up) "Daddy, you just be ok for a while and maybe someday mommy will love you again. But you have to kiss her. All you have to do is kiss her, it's magic." She goes on in this vein for a while, and I tell her, as gently as possible, that isn't something that can happen. She starts falling asleep at that point.
I don't have conversations like this in front of D--she's almost never around other people with me, anyway, other than the neighbors (and that rarely, since she's playing with their kids when I see them). What the hell are her mother and grandmother talking about in front of her?
The things that come out of D's mouth these days worry me sometimes. Do I need to be worried about this?
Heartbreaking, East - I can almost hear her little voice. You are a fab Dad and I should know because I had a fab Dad who always had my back from the moment I was born until I held his hand when he died two years ago. Being a Daddy's girl with a great Dad breeds a good strong woman.
My Dad gave me the strength and love and resilience that has helped me survive this chaos. It is the greatest gift, and one that will go on long after this horrible time has passed for you all too x
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
