Cadence, thank you for posting that, it helped me to read your take on the woman's psyche.
Jim, i agree with everyone else, your recent actions have been spot on. Remember, you're not giving up on your M because you're standing up for yourself. I will caution you to keep an eye out for anger, I suspect your going to start feeling it a lot now (it is where I went when I got to this stage), it's important you not direct the anger towards your WW... Work through it on your own.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized