"Youre ex seems to want to communicate with you, but could it be because he has stuff to share about finances? Could it be shame and a fear for his career, or reputation if some serious vices are revealed? Eventually it will come out, but do you think you can get him to disclose directly to you amd save the legal fees? The conflict, the battle?"
I just can't tell, juju. When he wanted to talk, he was clear that he DIDN'T want to talk about anything 'substantive' as he called it until the 'financial stuff was dealt with'... He wouldn't say why he wanted to chat other than muttering about 'keeping the communication doors open' (!) and that there were 'big important things' he wanted to to talk about then. Really no idea.
I've been trying, and failing, for 6 months since he filed to communicate (talk, email, carrier pigeon) about practical stuff. For months, he wouldn't even respond to an email about the selling price for the house or renewing an insurance. Literally silence. Given that, I tried mediation but he wouldn't show up. Tried lawyers' (endless) letters but it takes him 4-6 weeks to reply to each one and he lies or avoids questions he doesn't want to answer. So, no, unless I was smoking wacky baccy, I think it looks unlikely he will talk to me directly about these things unless anyone has any brilliant ideas?
Doing a bit of mind reading? I think it is hard for him to look at the reality of some of what he's done, so shame might be an issue. He may even be slowing things down as a passive-aggressive battle with OW if she is putting pressure on him. He might have thought that 'chatting' would soften me up so I wouldn't let my L be so tough or take him to Court.
But tbh, I don't get it really. If you run away from your M, start an A and file for divorce, why wouldn't you want to get it done in as calm and inexpensive a way as possible? No idea.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
