I'm growing concerned for you. I don't think it's healthy for you to be having a "big text convo" with W. You were together for a while, and she knows how to tug on your heartstrings. You've seen the tears and the regret before. You have "fixing" tendencies, so that was enough for you.
Now you know better and it's the same old story, except she feels entitled to you physically moving closer to her after she ended your relationship and ran away for unclear reasons. That is ludicrous on her part. I'm glad you're not entertaining it, but I'd like to see some sign of frustration on your end for the entitlement to your life, time, and heart when she's repeatedly chosen to take you for granted and treat you poorly.
The reason I'm concerned for you is you seem to just accept that this is how it is now, and you have to take these texts. I'm concerned because you're not frustrated at this somewhat absurd behavior on her part. Who does what she's doing, T? Would you accept this sort of behavior from a male friend? It's not your job to fix W (which you seem to know), but it's also not your job to tolerate whatever she wishes to throw your way.
I would love to see you shift out of this "In what way is W going to try to hold onto me today?" period because I think it's holding you back. I give you full credit for not feeding into her pleas for reassurance, but I think just seeing these messages from her over and over is so tempting/reassuring for you that it might stunt the amount that you grow.
Maybe you need to grow into a life that eventually incorporates a woman that isn't W, and this incessant texting does not allow for you to create the emotional space for a new person. I think that's her goal here, and I think it is incredibly unfair to you and I'd like to see some outrage emerge from you.
There is nothing more that needs to be said from your end, and there's nothing more - in the short term - that could possibly make a difference from her end.
Would you ever block her so you can get some peace? I'd really start considering it, for your own sake.
She'd always know your address, and how to reach your family, should she ever reach a point of compelling growth. In the short term, what she's doing is nothing new, and it is most likely keeping you stuck, even if you don't realize it. I would like to see an empowered you that lives a life free from W, for your own sake. If she comes back someday having made some real growth, and having lost her entitlement to you and your time, you can consider it then.
