Am I happy with the 5? I didnt used to be until I understood that this was the most he could give to anyone. By letting him know I accepted this it took a tremendous amount of pressure off of him and let our relationship progress. It wasnt that the OW was a 10 feeling I am only a 5. 5 is just all there is. OW just didnt require anything from him so she was an easier relationship (all she wanted was money and a surrogate daddy for her son) I dont think he is afraid of the MC, he really trusts her, she was his individual counselor first. He respects her opinion and I think he is afraid to let her down. During the few sessions I have been included in, it seemed to me as if she knew a whole different man than I did. She even made the comment of "he doesnt say what he does not mean and has been very honest with me. Lies are a deal breaker for me. He has lied to me for years and I believed him when he promised (which he never does, promises) that there would be no more lies. I know I am feeling it more because he lied about the post office, which to me is pure evil. that place is a haven for drugs and sex and alcohol. I have never told him he cannot have contact with old co-workers, I have in fact encouraged it. But why the need to lie about it if it has nothing to do with OW? That is what I dont get.
