Your story resembles mine. My ex deflected questions pertaining to missing money. I was convinced it was because he had secret investmemts and was hidimg it from me. I was convinced i needed lawyers to protect me and advocate for me. He kept trying to tell me he had nothing, and that didnt make sense to me. Well, now it does.
Definatly read up on that site i recommended about how lawyers prey on woman in divorce. Amd consider whether what you can actually recover will be worth the cost of court.
In hind site, a mediator (who is an attorney) would have been abke to get my ex to disclose and i would have hired a personal lawyer to review my decree).
Once the money is gone its usually gone and if your ex has mental instability or a drug issue will you even be able to recover?
Im only mentioning this based on my experience. Each of our situations is different. And i am traumatized by my legal experience, so take my advixe with a grain of salt.
Youre ex seems to want to communicate with you, but could it be because he has stuff to share about finances? Could it be shame and a fear for his career, or reputation if some serious vices are revealed?
Eventually it will come out, but do you think you can get him to disclose directly to you amd save the legal fees? The conflict, the battle?
