H sent me a text and said

We need to sit down and go over finances one night soon. I can't afford everything I am paying right now.

Do I bother responding to this??

I see on the phone bill he has been talking to that WONDERFUL woman his mother got involved, the one with 4 kids, divorced, remarried, etc, that tells him her children are the happiest in their classes compared to the kids with intact families. I mean hundreds of messages a day and talking on the phone during the day at work and on the way home. She's 15 years his senior and hasn't spoke to him since last BD. I know I can't control him talking to her, but I wish she would get out of his ear.

Treasur- thanks for stopping by. I do like the L and she thinks H is an A$$ and that's why she said serve him. She understands that I am not ready for that though but told me I can NEVER take him back after this... I just said I think I know that but my brain and heart aren't aligned, YET.

Yes these are all H's choices... I don't know why I want to be nice. Thank you for those words. He doesn't deserve for me to be bending over for him. He hasn't bent his knee for me once in months even as I was carrying our unborn son. These are the things I need to remember when I feel sad for him.

So what's changed is that this person, the calculating, serve him behind his back person is not an attractive person. It will further fuel he is making the right choice. That he has to get away from me because I am so controlling. Ugh this stuff [censored].

I just want to be the person only a fool leaves. I'm not sure me having a sheriff show up to serve him unknowingly is that person. That's what he did to me last time. Do I want to stoop to his level?


M 31 H 34
S 6 S 9
BD 2/14 Piecing 8/14