Wow, some amazing posts here, especially what OwnIt posted yesterday. Incredible stuff!
T, hang in there, you're doing awesome even though it doesn't feel like it to you. You are going to come out of this stronger and better than ever. I think a lot of us can see the future "after T" better than you do, and we see an amazing, strong, independent woman that is ready for anything. You'll get there sooner than you think.