I just went back and looked at your first post and it sounds like your sitch may be older than the 3 months you've been here. Can you please add a signature with pertinent info? It really helps us older folk keep track of things
It just seems like my W been going out of her way to be extra nice. Since I told her that I wanted her gone a few week's ago. Not really sure what that is all about. Not really why your still listening or validating your XW. Not sure if I would care enough about an XW like that. Not only do I plan on dropping the rope, I may set fire to it when it's all said and done.
Four days alone with W has past without incident. S13 returned from camp later this afternoon. I went out and GAL after work everyday before returning home. W and I talked a lot about various topics. But for the most part things are still the same. Thought I heard W on the phone with a friends talking about it you can't put something there that isn't there. Not sure if she was talking about the MR. But I found myself not even upset.
Just thinking that she needs to leave soon.at the moment I feel my life is in hold waiting on a no good woman. All other aspects of my life are going great. But the WW just seems like a huge weight at this point. And the more she acts the way she does the more things I learn not to like about her. Am I the only one starting to feel this way?
But the WW just seems like a huge weight at this point. And the more she acts the way she does the more things I learn not to like about her. Am I the only one starting to feel this way?
Not at all. After BD we all want desperately to save things. We have a distorted vision of the R and our contribution to its demise. As time goes on, we start to realize all the issues on both sides. We begin to see the WW/WH as a different person, and we question if we want this person around any more.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
I am seriously considering going to a lawyer this afternoon and just putting an end to this. Trying not to be emotional about this whole thing. But I am wondering if this me just dropping the rope at this point. I don't deal with drama, but it just seems that my W wants that due to some sort of excitement that may come with it. At this point I am wondering if I got to go full alpha make to get my W back in track with this MR?
As long as OM is in the picture my guard will always be up. Just a feeling I guess that W has her own motives. Which is motivated by his presence. Plus I feel as if W has control over the current situation. Might have to do with all the GAL I have been doing.
Been around some great and positive people who are going in the same direction I want with my life. And then I have who seems to look down on me as if I am now less than. Her and OM seem to be just getting smaller and smaller in my eyes as I see them as people who are really doing nothing with themselves.
W was complaining earlier that her work seems to be declining. Had every excuse in the book, except for staying up late nights contacting OM. I am getting in great shape, while OM and W are gwtting higher. Other than the time we have in this MR and who she was before the A began. Not really sure anymore what I am fighting for at times. In a way I feel guilty about that.
We all have our limit of how much limbo we're willing to tolerate. She wants out? So go. Help her pack a bag and tell her you'll drop her off at OM's house and then you never want to see her again. Your new self and life are too good and positive to allow a cheater to be part of it. That's a negative dark life, the life of a cheater. It's full of lies, deceit, cruelty, selfishness, etc. Think about it. There is literally ZERO positive qualities to a cheater's life. You don't need that negativity around you.
She can join you in your great positive life but not how she is now. She has a hill to climb. She either has the character to climb it or don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.
Your GAL is awesome. You're doing great! Your evolution from sobbing mess to strong, positive family leader is incredible! Take pride in knowing that you're doing exactly the right things and setting yourself up to have a great life no matter how this turns out. What's her future with OM? One lying cheater hooking up with another? Great life that sounds like. You don't need it around. Great job...stay the course!!!
Thanks for putting it all in perspective. It was actually a month ago that I told W that if she wanted to leave, I would drop your off at OM house or anywhere else. And I would pack the bag the for her. That left her speechless with nothing to say. At this point, I'm not sure if I should let things continue this way for a little while longer or just file the papers myself?
I'm trying not to be an ass about it. Because I have proven over the years to be one if necessary. But the old me that takes no crap from anyone is about to come out combined with the new me. Which is likely to result in me probably saying things that can't be taken back. When you got fed up with your W what exactly did you say?
