I must confess that I'm not entirely sure what your question is. Sounds like he filed for divorce, is not cooperating, and you have to do something (is August 15 a deadline to file an answer in the divorce, complete discovery--the disclosure part, or take some other action)?
Hard for me to imagine someone kicking themselves for staying in limbo for a year. I've been here 7 years. Now that is worthy of a serious talking to of one's self, no?
I read your post and bttfly's post and I see lots of people mention love. I realize that I never talk about love in mine. How could I possibly love someone who has done to me the things he has. I know in my case the predominant emotion has been fear and that is just insane. If not fear, than projecting qualities of decency onto him that he does not deserve.
You didn't choose any of this stuff or put it into motion. The only question is, are you going to protect yourself? If you are ashamed about a year, how would you feel about 7?
What is going to make the seismic shift in your life that you seem to be wanting.
