You are not talking to yourself, just look at how many people have read your thread. 1000s :-) Maybe people are just not sure what to say? You seem to be doing well. When I read your updates, they are reasonable and you are making progress. Listening and validating is key--you are doing that! Pat yourself on the back and keep it up!
You might find that the posters that get a lot of responses are asking more questions and have more dilemmas. I don't get very many replies either, but I also don't ask for much. That and there are few posters that are actively piecing. Maybe posters don't quite know how to advise me.
Keep updating even if it takes people time to reply. Also, ask for advice and specific questions.
It sounds like today your H has revealed that he is afraid that the changes won't stick. That is good news in my mind because he is thinking about things with you. You are in a unique sitch where you work together and see him daily. You get to show him your changes often. The best way to prove change is to actually change your actions and do it consistently over time. Read Sandi's rules every morning before work--go in and be your best self--keep listening and validating. It could take a very long time, but that is okay.
Lastly, take time for you. It is easy to get wrapped up in measuring if he is going to coming back. We all focus on that in the beginning! Remember that true success is not about him and what he does, but about you. Do you feel good about you and your changes? Are you happy with your GAL and 180s? What do you want in life overall? Now you have to gift of time to pursue those things.
That attitude will also attract quality people towards you. If not him, then definitely someone else one day! You want someone that appreciates you for you.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
