The 11th hour

[Gordie]

Read the whole book. There is a lot of trial and error involved. Do what works. Stop doing what doesn't. If giving her a lot of time and space to be alone calms her, then do that. If she feels you are ignoring her and gets angry, stop doing that. If giving her attention makes her angry, stop doing that. If giving her attention opens her up to you, then keep doing that. Does that make sense? There's no one recipe that will work for all situations so you need to experiment to see what works for you. If you read enough threads you will find people in similar situations and you can learn from them too. Take one day at a time.