Hey patty13. Do I know you? Did you have another username when you were here before? I was pretty active here from 2004 to about 2008 - back in the days of Hairdog, Honeypot, MJ, et al.
I'm back now too, but I don't have nearly the story you do. The cold, hard fact is that nothing has ever changed for me. I've had some success with GAL, but as we all know, that only goes so far and can never really replace what we want/need. I'm coming up on 42 years of SSM and I seriously doubt that we've had intercourse 100 times in that span. I've had two or three half-hearted handjobs in the last two or three years. I know nothing is ever going to change.
The only real development has been that I now have low T and the decreased libido from that has made things more bearable for me. It's all still there, I guess you could say that the low T has taken the edge off somewhat. But having said that, I also note that I AM back here looking around again. It still hurts.
If I do know you by another name, I'm sorry to make your (re)acquaintance.