Just wondering if I should be purely focusing on Improving myself and GAL this^^^ and only this, for 2 reasons.
1) you have your own sandbox to work in, with your stuff, which is your job.
2) you are all you control. Back off working on your wife. It's her job, not yours.
or calmly asking W to arrange counseling for herself as well as us. Don't ask your wife to do what is obviously needed IF SHE wants to work on the m.
I'm still not clear that is what SHE wants. Are you?
I feel Guilty because her work is so stressful she's about to crack So I'm just lost about how to proceed right now.
I'm not a T, but I think you feel guilty b/c of the role you played in your marriage getting here. That's normal but be sure to identify what causes what.
And feeling guilty (regrets) about your past is ONLY useful to guide you in new behaviors and choices, not to beat yourself up about.
And not to assume responsibility for her choices.
If you two are going to reconcile, there will be CLARITY from her about wanting to work on the m and you won't be guessing about how to interpret things.
She may not be there now. You want to become a man only a fool would leave.
So, back to YOU and your GAL...what's new in that arena?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
