Pam and Nik - Thanks for the welcome home - now for another question. one of the suggestions in DR is to vary the medium and acutally suggest to write a letter.
I have never written her a letter and I think that if I do that it be as one friend to another. no pursuing and no anger or retialation. Any Ideas if I should and if so what shoud I write about
Hi Odga~ I follow your postings as we are in simular places, (D, yet?...)
I have written a couple letters in the past. They were marginally effective. H seemed to appreciate them, and we talked a bit. But in the grand scheme of things we are still D, although have casual contact much like you and C.
Some things that come to my mind: What do you want to accomplish? What is your message and what would you envision the outcome to be?
One of the heartfelt letters I wrote to H I wrote on really nice paper with quality pen, by hand. There was a big delay in H getting the one I wrote in the mail and he requested me to email him the letter prior to him getting it. Once he did get the real one he mentioned how much better it came accross in my own hand.
Thanks Water for your imput - I was thinking of writting a letter as I would to a friend. No mushy stuff, no pursuing - just friendly tone and let it come across that I care. Would write it in my own hand and mail it.
I was thinking of waiting for a week or two first as she wanted to have her "two months" of no contact.
Had a busy day yesterday - no contact w/ C tho, so I guess we are starting the two months no contact period. I am still following my personal goals and praying for her at least once per day and saying something positive about her to someone else. w/o contact w/ her I can not boost her ego but will when the chance comes. Till then I will work on my business and me and my new home.
I have most of the documents ready for closing but still need to get homeowners insurance and just a few other items. I hate the thought of packing and moving tho. a necessary evil tho and I will have over 6 weeks to get all my stuff out of the apartment and clean it up.
Odga, I like the way you list out your plan and your goals. I try to do that too, and I found that by doing that it holds me more accountable to myself. I also re-visit them every couple of months to update with progress, adjust, and add any new ones.
Good luck with the no contact period! Regardless of the outcome, I think it will be well worth it, and you will find yourself in a great place
It sounds like you have some great ideas about how to keep busy meanwhile. I've learned that just living my life is the best and easiest way to get through the strange times.
Again, good luck!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
NO contact did not last too long even tho I initiated contact.
Seems that C is still my Business Insurance agent and I needed some info to get my new secretary some Dental insurance. After the intitial business discussion she asked me how my trip was and I said Great then changed the topic to if she sold her business. Little more discussion on that then told her that I got a renewal package on my Worker Comp in the mail and noticed that the initials of the employee she let go last year was still there. She told me that she rehired her but is watching her VERY closely.
Then out of the blue she asked me if I wanted to get together for Wings. and that maybe we could get together at my apartment and I could show her my new house.
